Your Unique Path

I once heard a very famous physician author, Bernie Siegel speak to a room full of brave cancer patients, cancer survivors, nurses and physicians who support cancer patients Bernie was passionate that his purpose and responsibility was to do the work he was doing teaching people on the relationship between the patient and the healing process as it manifests throughout one’s life. He said something that day that has stayed with me. To paraphrase, “when you are doing what you are supposed to be doing – living your life’s work the details take care of themselves.” His example was that he never worried about weather delays as he traveled the country going to one speaking venue to another. “If I’m supposed to be there, I will be and the weather will take care of itself.” It would make no difference worrying one way or another; if he was supposed to be there if the speech was on his path, he would be. In other words, doing what you’re supposed to be doing is all you have to do, and following your innate, deeply in-built strengths will help you do it.

In his excellent book, Aspire, Kevin Hall writes, “when you maximize your talents, you are on path, on purpose, on target. When you don’t, you’re off path, off purpose, and off target.” Simple as that.

Following your innate talents will set you on course to finding your unique path in life. You talents are your most enduring resource, innate skills and strengths that your brain does most naturally. Which means that if you pursue your talents, put energy into maximizing them, and organize your life around them, all of the other pieces of your path will fall into place. What are your talents? What comes most naturally to you? Is there something you could do indefinitely without ever becoming tired of it? Do what is in your nature; the things you do well that you have a natural aptitude for; use your genius to contribute.

May your next iteration be a fruitful and inspiring one—whatever turn it takes.

Success Clues – At Work, At Play, Everyday.

 

Lynden@LyndenKidd.com

www.lyndenkidd.com

 

In our culture, we our taught to be modest about our talents and abilities to the point where we often deny them to ourselves. Often, however, opportunities come our way that require unwavering confidence in ourselves. Maybe it’s a dream job with a company you respect, a chance to start your own business, or even a potential relationship. In each of these scenarios, self-belief is vital to success. Think of it this way: taking someone “into confidence” means placing your faith in them. Self-confidence is the same; it’s the act of investing trust in yourself and your ability to succeed.

 

So, even if you aren’t sure of yourself, place a bet on your abilities—give yourself a chance. Lack of self-confidence is plain self-doubt. And self-doubt is a self-fulfilling prophecy. It keeps us from reaching for opportunities, from aspiring towards a better future, and from pursuing our dreams. In the famous words of Vince Lombardi, confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.

 

When you act confidently, you’ll inspire the confidence in others. They’ll “catch” your confidence, believe in your abilities, and help you pave the way to your own success. In her fantastic book (and equally wonderful blog by the same name), Good Girls Finish Last, Zee Worstell writes that women “finish last” in terms of professional success because they internalize cultural messages of extreme modesty. She encourages us to think of ourselves the way we want others to view us, to project a confident attitude—and reap the rewards that self-confidence brings. People will only take an individual seriously if he or she is serious about their abilities and potential. Conversely, if you constantly underestimate and under-rate yourself, no one will have cause to give you the opportunities you deserve.

 

Confidence is a choice – it is something we do; a skill we can cultivate. Charisma and confidence are linked—people are attracted to confidence. And as we project an image of ourselves as confident, self-assured individuals, we will be treated as such. And eventually, even if it takes a little work, we’ll become legitimately confident and self-assured in our own minds. When we don’t choose confidence, we suffer the consequences—we deny our unique gifts and talents.

 

Act confident now. Proudly and unrepentantly affirm your abilities to yourself and others, and see where it leads you. Choose confidence.

 

Success Clues – living your true calling.  At work, at play, everyday.

Lynden

 

Lynden@LyndenKidd.com

www.LyndenKidd.com

 

I may not do all the good the world needs, but the world needs all the good that I can do.          — Jana Stanfield

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “To waste your talent is a sin.” Everyone has their natural aptitudes, interests they gravitate towards, passions they wish they had time to realize. We often cloak these talents in modesty or self-effacement: you might be good at something, but since you’re not the best, there’s no point in pursuing it, right?

Wrong.

Any talent, small or large, is a privilege. And like any privilege, you have a responsibility to wield it wisely. Wasting your talent isn’t just a sin, it’s an affront to the talent itself. Because we are taught from a young age to conform at any cost, it can be difficult to even realize what your talent is. Try to make room in your life to hear that small, quiet voice that speaks to you about your gifts and the contribution you can make. Your talent may not save the world, but, as Jana Stanfield said, the world needs all the good you can do.

In his wonderful book, Aspire, Kevin Hall writes: “When you feel as if you would do something for free, that is when you know you are on your true path. That is when you know you are connecting to what comes naturally to you.” When you are so passionate about something that you’re willing to do it without any incentive other than the pure joy of it—that is the true test of passion. To live your passion and apply your talents is to follow your intuitive calling.

Aristotle once said, “Where our talents and the needs of the world cross, there lies our vocation.” Your intuitive calling is not simply something you find pleasurable—if that were so, many would find that they’re true vocation was to play video games or sit at the pub betting on sports! Rather, an intuitive calling is sincere joy infused with service. When you are willing to break the bounds of self-interest to commit to something meaningful, you have found your true calling. When you pursue something with singular vision and feel liberated, that is your true calling. When what you are doing and who you have become unite, that is your true calling.

Embrace your greatness and start making a difference in the world.

May your next iteration be a fruitful and inspiring one—whatever turn it takes.

Success Clues – living your true calling.  At work, at play, everyday.

Lynden

 

Lynden@LyndenKidd.com

www.LyndenKidd.com

 

 

 

 

 

Developing Your Passion

When we think of passion, we often think of something that sits on the sidelines, waiting for us to attend to it after our “real work” is done—in other words, a hobby.

But think about this: according to Kevin Hall’s Aspire, “The word ‘passion’ first surfaced in the twelfth century. Coined by Christian scholars, it means to suffer. In its purest sense it describes the willing suffering of Christ.” “Passion doesn’t mean just suffering for suffering’s sake; it must be pure and willing suffering. “It’s one thing to suffer and be a victim; it’s an entirely different thing to be willing to suffer for a cause and become a victor…being willing to suffer for what you love. When we discover what we are willing to pay the price for, we discover our life’s mission and purpose.”

That’s passion. It’s the core of the human spirit. Certainly not a hobby. Think of Leonardo Da Vinci. A painter, an inventor, scientist and all around genius, he was arguably one of the most brilliant minds the world has seen; yet he was financially dissolute for most of his life, relying on patrons for food and shelter. Despite these privations, he was dedicating his life to learning and self-expression, living his passion and following his purpose.

Viktor Frankl, a psychologist who was intimate with suffering of a more sinister kind at the hands of the Nazis, wrote this about passion:

 

If we can find something to live for –if we can

Find some meaning to put at the center of our lives—

Even the worst kind of suffering becomes bearable.

When you feel the need to do something so strongly that you are willing—happy, even—to suffer for it, that is when you have found your true purpose. When you have passion, you will do whatever it takes to simply continue doing it. It’s not something you have to try to do, but something you have to do.

 

Success Clues – Living Your True Calling.  At Work, At Play, Everyday

 

Lynden@lyndenkidd.com

www.LyndenKidd.com

 

The biggest mistake people make is not making a living doing what they really love.

Wow.  That seems obvious, but honestly it is not. For some of us, figuring out what we love becomes a process, because we’ve done what we thought we ought and should be doing. Possibly, we find ourselves in a habit of doing what we’ve always done without being as aware as we’d like of what we really enjoy.

For others of us, as we evolve, mature and have profound life experiences our interests shift.  We may find that we simply aren’t as connected or engaged with how we spend the majority of our time. What about you?  What calls to you?

In the sad minority are those who are wildly happy doing on a daily basis work they love. Why is that and what can be done to profoundly change this?  In a beautifully written book by author, speaker and coach, Kevin Hall entitled Aspire, living our Namaste or ‘greatness within’ becomes the inspiration for what we do.  In other words, learning to live and to serve from our core, our profoundly gifted center positions us then to contribute fully. From Aspire, “‘Nature’ comes from the Latin ‘natura’, which means to be born or to give birth.  Nature is the gifts you were born with, it is your genius.”

It is my belief that each of us has a natural gift to share, a personal genius we’ve been offered a chance to gift to the people in our lives. What is yours?  Do you know your true calling?  If you don’t know, or are unsure, I hope you’ll come back often and reflect on my musings, since I am pretty sure that my true calling is to help some of you discover yours. Namaste.

Success Clues – living your true calling.  At work, at play, everyday.

Lynden

 

Lynden@LyndenKidd.com

www.LyndenKidd.com

 

 

 

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